When I think of my marriage, I feel a huge sense of security and that is something I cherish. I prefer a secure attachment style, and that does not mean you cannot have adventure within your relationship, but there’s definitely more security than spontaneity. For someone who grew up in a chaotic, anxiety ridden home, security is something I’ve always craved; I feel so blessed to feel safe and comfortable in my marriage and in my home.

When I think of adventures, I think about vacations and spontaneous surprises. I love taking trips and seeing new places with my husband, but we also always make sure we have our money right before just going on vacations, which comes back to the security factor. I’d rather be secure in my finances than be stressed about credit cards and loans.

I understand that vacationing is fun and it can be a great refresher, but if you’re then spending years to pay it off, is it really worth that? I’d say no, especially if you’re paying interest because then that $2,000 trip easily turns into $8,000 depending if you’re just paying the minimums, how high your rate is, and how long it takes for you to pay it back.

Feeling financially secure is so important to me. I feel blessed that we can afford our bills and we are prioritizing paying off our last credit card and working towards our financial goals. We may have made some less than smart financial decisions throughout the years, but we continue to grow and learn from them, and we know that financial stability brings a huge sense of security in our lives.