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So many feelings

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I accepted a job offer today.

I feel a lot of things right now, but I think the feeling I hate the most is guilt. Even though I have zero reason to feel guilty, I always do. I feel guilty that my boss will be blind-sided when I give my notice, I feel guilty that so many things won’t get done around the office now and that the other employees will suffer. The thing is though… she is the reason I’m leaving.

My boss is emotionally abusive. She will have random mood swings and just stat screaming at you (even in front of patients sometimes), and then 30 minutes later act like nothing happened and everything’s fine. She will tell you to do one thing and then a month later she’ll yell at you for doing that same thing. I won’t go into other details but let’s just say I don’t enjoy lying at all in any circumstance and I feel that I am forced to do that in my job.

The new job I’m taking is actually a pay cut in regards to hourly wage, however they offer monthly bonuses which are very often achieved and I’d have other people working front desk with me and there’s a billing team who deals with all of the insurance. Honestly, it will be so worth it for my sanity and mental health to be in a place where there is organization, opportunity for growth, and a place where they try not to burn out their employees.

It was a big decision to make, and honestly I am proud of myself for doing it. I know that I am good with my money and will be able to adjust to the pay-cut, and I will be so much less stressed and depressed. All I do now is go to work and stress all day, rarely ever eat, and then I come home, eat and lay in bed and watch mindless Netflix shows. I don’t feel motivated to do much of anything until the weekends, and even then sometimes I feel like I’m forcing myself to do things.

I am very grateful for my friends/family/boyfriend who have been supportive throughout this and who are also proud of me for making this decision. They see what this job has done to me in the past several months and are almost as happy as I am that I will hopefully be done throwing up every morning before work.

Quick Sunday Post

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I had a great weekend full of visiting with wonderful friends and it was much needed. I also have been applying to new jobs and have an interview tomorrow. I am a little worried because they didn’t post the pay and I’m worried if they want to pay low, but I also have a job still so I just would ask for more or decline. I am thinking too far ahead as usual, for now I’m just going to remember that everything happens for a reason.

New medication (again)

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On Friday I had an appointment with a psychiatrist that my therapist referred me to, and after an hour long discussion of me quickly describing my life childhood to now and explaining how I’ve felt on all of my previous and current medications he prescribed Cymbalta. I am to wean off my Buspar for the next couple weeks while starting the new one which I just started yesterday.

I am more hopeful with this medication; now that I’ve tried a few others and was able to self-reflect and then inform an educated physician about my experiences I feel like there’s more of a chance of success compared to when I first started with medications. I remember seeing a psychiatrist for the first time and talking to her for 20 minutes about how I was feeling and she put me on Zoloft right away. And when I wanted to come off of it after almost nine months she told me I needed to stay on it for a year. Well I didn’t listen and took myself off of it and stayed away from medications for a while.

When I started having almost daily panic attacks and chest pains I decided to see my primary care and was prescribed Lexapro which I had a weird delayed allergic reaction to and then was switched to Prozac. I felt like that was helpful for a while until we increased the dose and I felt like things were getting worse (I had lots of racing thoughts which didn’t help my anxiety at all), and I realized that I had been having side effects that I didn’t like the entire time I was on prozac, they just weren’t as severe as when we increased the dose.

When I explained that to the primary care doctor I was switched to an anxiety only (rather than an antidepressant) medication called Buspar which is what I am now currently weaning off of. This medication I honestly feel like it hasn’t done anything. I felt reassured when I saw this new doctor on Friday and he told me that many colleagues of his rarely saw good results for anxiety patients that medication.

Overall I am hopeful as I previously stated-lately I’ve been so down and unmotivated to do anything which is really bumming me out. I know I should just try faking it until I make it but I just feel so tired all the time. Hopefully I won’t be feeling this way much longer.

Rough day

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My cat is in the animal hospital and will be overnight for some bladder issues. I really don’t feel like writing it all out right now because I feel like all day has been me updating close friends and family. I just feel exhausted.

Yesterday was so different- I felt like I actually had a good day. I was able to work out a deal with my car dealership and leasing company to end up in a new 2020 Sonata yesterday, and I also got an eye exam and was told that my contact prescription had no changes (which is the first time in 10+ years that I’ve been told that).

This year literally feels like a joke – whenever something good happens it seems like terrible things always seem to follow. Hopefully this will be soon and I can just sit and relax and not have to worry about anything for a minute.

Battles

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When I started this blog, my intention was to work on myself and learn how to love myself and hopefully help others along the way. Instead I feel like it’s been me battling my anxiety and depression and just journaling about life, but honestly I think it’s an important part of the journey.

Lately I have been hard on myself per usual and I’ve been toying with the idea of leaving my job which always brings tons of feelings of guilt and anxiety. I just have to remind myself that I need to care about my mental health and sanity, and also my therapist reminds me at every session how toxic and chaotic my work environment is and I just work work work work work all the time.

It has always been difficult for me to leave jobs. I get very attached to people, and I also know how much of a benefit I am in my positions and that it won’t be great for them. But again, that is not my problem, as I am my own person and am responsible for myself.

I do keep getting a guilty feeling when I think about having to tell my boss I’m leaving (even though I literally haven’t even interviewed anywhere) because I think she’s going to be caught off guard. The problem with me is I tend to internalize issues and also I tend not to disrespect authority/my boss even when she’s being disrespectful to me – so I don’t think she even realizes how much anxiety she’s caused me and that I’m burnt out.

I could have a conversation with her, but even so she has these insane mood swings and is literally emotionally abusive to her staff and although I can sympathize with the fact that she has a lot going on and the world is shit right now, it doesn’t make it right. Other people who have been there for much longer have said that she’s getting bad like she used to be, and that she does this and doesn’t change. People do get stuck in their ways and it is what it is.

I’ll pick and choose my battles, I don’t have any just yet in regards to leaving my job or anything like that. It’s just something I’ve been thinking about and arguing about in my head and it’s exhausting me and I just wish things were easier.

Tired or depressed or both

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I feel exhausted all the time, and I look it too. I feel like my under eye bags have been darker than usual. When I get off work all I want to do is lay in bed and watch mindless TV, and making plans to do something other than that seems too tiring. I have no motivation to do anything and feel no desire to leave my bed- normally I’d be on a walk right now enjoying the sun. Summer is typically my prime time and I’m hoping this is just a minor “funk” that’ll be over soon.

Alrighty then

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I had teletherapy with my doctor on Friday, and I always feel so great after speaking with her. One common thing that keeps coming up though is that the environment I work in is very toxic and triggering for me, and it might finally be time to look elsewhere. There’s only so much that a person can take, and only so much money that can make losing your sanity worth it.

I’m not ready to run away just yet, I will of course want another job lined up because my bills won’t just stop unfortunately. However, I am taking necessary steps such as updating my resume and being active on Indeed, my mom always said the best time to look for a job is when you already have one. Truthfully I will probably end up staying until the one assistant goes to hygiene school in August. The thought of losing all my staff in the matter of a few months again and having to re-hire over and over is too overwhelming, and I don’t want to deal with it.

Not much to say

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It has been an overall good day today- which was much needed. Yesterday after working for the 6th day in a row I visited my mother which was nice! I was so tired once I got home and was in bed at 8:30pm. Before that of course I had a breakdown and couldn’t stop crying. I was feeling so down and hard on myself. I also have been very overwhelmed with work and debating looking for a new job.

It’s a lot right now, but today was a good day and I’m thankful for that.

Dark world

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I didn’t write on Sunday, and I’ve been beating myself up about it, but I can’t even do that because that was a very busy day. I was going to write yesterday, but after work I was too tired and drained. The world is so sad and dark right now and it’s hurting my soul. I just feel heavy and tired and always on the verge of tears.

I know I need to write about it, I just feel like there’s too much to say. My thoughts are always racing and jumbled and there’s so much going on and I feel so overwhelmed by my own brain. I had to delete my facebook and twitter (other than it sharing my blog post and stream automatically) for my own sanity, and I don’t plan on going back anytime soon. Constantly reading and soaking in all the negativity is seriously hurting my mental health, so I stopped.

A thought that continues to come into my head is that I am just grateful that I do not have children right now. On the phone the other day my mom apologized to me that I have to live in this shit world and that she always said she didn’t want kids for this reason. I reassured her that I’m okay, because I am; I can handle anything, it’s just hard right now.

I will admit I am scared. I’m scared of the state of this country as we watch it divide. It hurts me deeply to see other people have such lack of empathy for other human lives- and it can be for something as simple as having a different opinion. If people focused less on violence and hatred of those with opposing views, and focused on coming together, finding common ground, and working towards solutions I feel that we’d be in a much better world. I haven’t prayed in years… but I might just pray for that tonight.

Long weekend with nothing to do

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Honestly this weekend is making me a bit upset when I think about how I’m not out having a huge BBQ with friends or family and/or not going to the dells… I just want life to be normal again. I don’t like complaining but I also am very much tired of all of this.

Today I streamed on my Twitch channel because that’s something I decided to start doing. It’s interesting, I am trying to figure out more things to do on the stream so if anyone has suggestions just let me know! I could just be open about my mental health on there… I’m not sure if Twitch is the place for that though LOL.

I also went on a walk which was both great yet terrible. It’s hot and sunny today, which I love, but also it’s like 90% humidity outside and I was dying. I’m so glad to be inside enjoying the AC right now. I’m going to go shower and get ready for my stream at 6:30 because my boyfriend agreed to try to do my makeup which should be fun! I hope everyone’s enjoying their weekend!