Author: hermagicalthoughts

Wednesday Afternoon Blurb

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Feeling kinda meh this evening- like I don’t have any hobbies that I truly enjoy or get lost in. I know I have some, but I guess I’ve just been feeling a lack of motivation. I know it’s just a phase and it’ll pass soon, so I’m not that bothered by it, but obviously enough to write this little blurb.

What Bothers Me

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What bothers you and why?

When people blame everyone else for their problems and refuse to take any accountability. It bothers me because we all know as a society that no one is perfect, so when someone literally cannot own up to their mistakes, it comes off as they feel they are better and more important than others. Not only that, but when they have no problem trying to throw anyone else under the bus when they’re confronted, then they cannot be trusted at all.

10 Things

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List 10 things you know to be absolutely certain.

• Love is always the answer

• Gratitude makes you more present to the blessings around you

• The sun will rise again

• No rain, no flowers

• Music is healing

• Therapy works if you work

• You aren’t meant to be liked by everyone

• Healing is not linear

• Dental insurance is horrible and needs serious updates/revisions to get with the times

• Being “rich” looks different to everyone

Security vs. Adventure

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Are you seeking security or adventure?

When I think of my marriage, I feel a huge sense of security and that is something I cherish. I prefer a secure attachment style, and that does not mean you cannot have adventure within your relationship, but there’s definitely more security than spontaneity. For someone who grew up in a chaotic, anxiety ridden home, security is something I’ve always craved; I feel so blessed to feel safe and comfortable in my marriage and in my home.

When I think of adventures, I think about vacations and spontaneous surprises. I love taking trips and seeing new places with my husband, but we also always make sure we have our money right before just going on vacations, which comes back to the security factor. I’d rather be secure in my finances than be stressed about credit cards and loans.

I understand that vacationing is fun and it can be a great refresher, but if you’re then spending years to pay it off, is it really worth that? I’d say no, especially if you’re paying interest because then that $2,000 trip easily turns into $8,000 depending if you’re just paying the minimums, how high your rate is, and how long it takes for you to pay it back.

Feeling financially secure is so important to me. I feel blessed that we can afford our bills and we are prioritizing paying off our last credit card and working towards our financial goals. We may have made some less than smart financial decisions throughout the years, but we continue to grow and learn from them, and we know that financial stability brings a huge sense of security in our lives.

Wake Up/ Sleep

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What time do you go to bed and wake up currently?

My alarm goes off at 6am every day so I can get up and give my cat her insulin. I stay up during the weekdays since I go to work shortly after, but on most weekends I will usually go back to bed until about 9am.

As far as going to bed, if I fall asleep too early like 9:30-10:00pm, then my body wakes me up around 5am which I honestly don’t prefer. I’ve been trying to go to bed later around 10:30-11:00pm so I can sleep through the night until my alarm.

Comfort Strats

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What strategies do you use to increase comfort in your daily life?

When I think of comfort, I think of peace. Some of the things I do to increase comfort are:

• wearing comfortable clothing (sweats & yogas)

• listening to calming music like Cleo Sol

• stretching my body in an intentional and slow way

• journaling (brings the mind comfort)