What quality do you value most in a friend?
Honestly. Just be real with me. It’s funny because as a people pleaser, I have NOT been an honest friend in the past. I realize now I was hindering genuine connections and communication with my friends, and I have grown a lot over the past few years in regard to this.
What jobs have you had?
I’ve been working since I could, and babysitting before that. These are some jobs I’ve had:
•Hollister (clothing store)
•Skate guard/Skate rental at an ice rink
•Movie theater staff
•Spirit Halloween
•Server at a restaurant for like three shifts LOL
•Dermatology (medical assistant, then administrative medical assistant back office on phones)
•Dental Office (started as sterilization, learned the front desk, been a team lead, now I do insurance claims)
Do you remember life before the internet?
I don’t really remember life before the internet considering my parents got a computer when I was seven years old. Actually, I was apparently gifted this computer on my birthday by my dad’s cousin, but my dad lied and said it was for him and that he’d let me play games on it.
I did get to play games and use Word Paint LOL, but ultimately I don’t remember a lot of my childhood so I can’t say I remember life before the internet. I will say that I’m sure my dad was a lot more present as a parent without the computer, because a lot of my childhood that I do remember, he was sitting there in front of the computer screen.
It reminds me of how I use my phone now. I don’t have children currently, but I’ve always been mindful to the fact that when I have children, I don’t want them to feel like I’m always on my phone. I honestly think I’d just get off social media completely once I have a child, mainly because I also don’t want my future child(ren) on social media.
I am someone who uses the internet a lot. Most of us have to use it in some way for our jobs, we’re connected to it on our phones, we use it to order things of Amazon or groceries- it kind of seems like a basic necessity in our current society. However, I do feel that somehow the more “connected” we are online and/or to our devices, the less we are actually connecting with one another. We’re trading genuine conversations for likes and views from people on the internet.
Have you ever had an experience where you are out with family or friends and someone or some people start scrolling on their phones or start texting? Has that happened when you were directly talking with them? I understand we all have to be able to have our phones to check incase of emergencies, to be in contact with family/friends/babysitters etc- but to be interrupted from a genuine conversation for a random snapchat or an IG notification?
In that moment, in real life, that feels like a loss of connection. Another example that can feel like a disconnection: finding out important news about your close family and friends on social media, instead of from them directly. I value my friendships and I personally would rather talk to my friend in person and share a celebratory moment with them privately than to post to random strangers internet about something near and dear to my heart.
Maybe I’m old school, but I kind of feel like I would have enjoyed life before the internet. I’ll be 30 in July, so most of my life really did involve being on the internet. I feel like I’m definitely dependent on it now, but I also know that humans have lived without the internet for centuries, and they all survived. In fact, they probably thrived with less mental health issues and more genuine connections! LOL
Do you practice religion?
I pray and I have faith in a higher power, but I am not “religious” per se. As a child, I went to a Christian church for a bit, but I don’t remember a lot from that other than being in church choir. I also know I watched a lot of Veggie Tales, but I don’t remember the actual religious parts of the show. I am still struggling with the word “God,” a bit, and I don’t know if that just comes from the fact that I believe we’re all from the same source, but not that it’s some masculine figure in the sky who is ruling us all.
I have seen signs and synchronicities from the Universe; I know that energy matters, and how we talk to ourselves and others is important. When we come from a place of gratitude and abundance, we tend to see more of that in our lives. When we come from a wounded place of lack, we tend to see all the places we are failing. How we tune into the world is how we perceive it, and when I pray to the universe and count my blessings, I feel so in tune with the universe.
When I’m in tune, I see a lot of repeating numbers and hear repeating phrases. I notice many synchronicities and I feel so giddy inside when I notice a sign. I love feeling so connected to the divine and to my angels, and in those moments, I know that we’re all connected all the time.
What are you good at?
I’m good at empathizing and getting along with others. I love making people feel seen and heard, and I feel like I listen well which allows people to do so. I would also say am good at writing, as well as self-isolating LOL! I love having good conversations with good people, but honestly being alone helps me recharge.
What personal belongings do you hold most dear?
I absolutely love the fact that I still have letters/notes that my husband and I wrote back and worth when we were dating in high school. Those I do hold near and dear to my heart and I’d love to make a scrapbook or several of our lives and phases in life together.
Do you have any collections?
I used to collect cool rocks as a kid, as well as some coins, but not so much anymore. Currently I am loving mini Bratz, just because I was obsessed with Bratz dolls as a kid!
What is the legacy you want to leave behind?
A happy, loving home.
What sacrifices have you made in life?
I think about how most of my teenage life I spent time working and babysitting and really just trying to save up tons of money so I could move out of my parents place ASAP. It was all worth it in the end, as I know I would not have lasted much longer there.
What are your favorite brands and why?
I’m not a huge brand person like I was as a kid/teenager, but I love me some Tul Pens. They write so smoothly and honestly they just make me so happy LOL!
finding light in the dark 