Today there is a winter storm warning, and where I live we are expecting anywhere between 8-14 inches of snow. Normally, this would make me really upset and stressed out, but my boyfriend and I planned ahead to be able to stay home all day today together. We went to Walgreen’s last night after having dinner with some friends, and we made sure to get hard liquor and diet soda (still going strong on keto!) because we planned to day drink today and watch a movie or two.
It is hard for me to sit still all day, and what I like about the relationship my boyfriend and I share is we do a lot of things separately; so if he wants to sit around all day, he can, and he doesn’t expect me to do the same with him. Currently I am writing this post and he is playing video games (Call of Duty), and after I’m finished I will put away my laundry and probably do a little yoga, or if he is done we can watch a movie/show. We have been together for seven years, and although we get along great and he is my absolute best friend, we don’t exactly have a lot of mutual interests.
Some people might find it hard to be in a relationship with someone like that, but I have always been independent, and he has too, which is why I think it works so well for us. I have gone to Seattle and Colorado without him, and he has no problem with that. He has gone out of state with friends before without me, and the world didn’t fall apart. A lot of couples in our generation (millennials) seem to have a lot of trust issues and I think that stems a lot from social media, along with shitty past relationships, but our relationship would be considered more “old fashioned.”
I am 23, and my boyfriend is 24. We started dating when we were juniors in high school. We have three cats together, and we bought our first home about a year and a half ago. I feel lucky every day that I have such an intelligent, caring man in my life. He listens to my problems, and tries to help me in any way he can. He is always telling me that I am “gorgeous” and when I call he answers the phone with either “Hey, beautiful” or “Hello, my love.” Those seemingly “small” things are what make me feel so very special every day. We have grown from being teenagers to young adults, and we did this together. We push each other to be better every day, and encourage and support one another in any way we can.
Like any couple, we do argue. Thankfully, it really is not often; and when we do we can talk through it, once we have our space to cool down. I can honestly say that communication is one of the most important things in any relationship. It is essential that you and that person, whether it be a significant other or even a friend, need to be able to tell each other what you are feeling. You need to express when you are hurt, or upset. You need to tell each other what is bothering you, so that you can work on a solution together. Literally just talking to each other every day, whether it be venting about work or discussing a new idea/goal or just decided what to cook for dinner, communication is key to a healthy, growing relationship.
well, all this talk about relationships makes me want to hop off of this blog and get everything done so I can cuddle with my baby. I am glad I took the time to write today, it seems to help fight the winter blues. ♡